Tuesday, December 1, 2009

little things...

Have you ever noticed how it's the little things that always get you; that always bother you to no end?

Intellects try and try to put them to the side, to pretend that they are unaffected by such things, but they are. People, big and small, red and yellow are bothered by the small things.

It's evident that the big things bother us... but oh, for the small things...

like how your lover can respond to everyone else's comments on Facebook except yours

or how an old associate won't keep you as a friend on Facebook (FB has become quite the big deal, don't deny it)

or how someone cuts you off in traffic and they speed up to make the light, whereas you get stuck waiting

or like how you text your friend and they don't respond

or how you wake up hoping you've still got plenty of time to sleep but it's two minutes before your alarm is to go off

or how you think you've got one piece of cake left and you come home and someone ate it already...

These things are so minuscule... but do they bother you as much as they bother me? It's really the little things that have the ability to get under my skin and stay stuck there.

15 comments:

Manda The Magnificent said...

you just blew me away. i was dating someone rwcently the past few months who would answer all of her friends on facebook and update her statuses upon ignoring my texts for hours at a time and id re send it so i knew she got them. i honestly thought i was overacting because she told me i was. after months of it happening how could i not over react? advice?

Miss Malorie said...

Go with your first instinct. You weren't overreacting... people just like to tell you that when they know they are being wrong. People will often try to convince you otherwise, but stick with your gut.

Some people just aren't Facebook people, some people just aren't texters, but my thing is that, people will talk to you when they want to. If they are ignoring you and talking to everyone else, it's because you're not a priority to them. Doesn't mean you're never a priority, but maybe in that moment, you aren't. I'm saying it to you like this because I know what it feels like. The sooner you realize that, the easier it will become for you to recognize the behavior, and either correct it to your liking, or just let it go.

Manda The Magnificent said...

i finally just cut the awkward "hey we havent talked in a week thing" today and said how did we go from you giving me your number to us being together and talking literally from the second we opened our eyes til we closed them, to not at all. i said "you know, maybe you tried harder when you were leafing me on" and she said "yeah i know. i just suck" and when i said i was tired of thinking about new ways to let her go she called me delusional. thoughts?

Manda The Magnificent said...

leading me on i meant

Miss Malorie said...

So she acknowledged that she was leading you on? And I'm not quite sure why she called you delusional... thinking about ways to let someone go is pretty normal to me!

Manda The Magnificent said...

she claims that it wasnt leading me on because eventually told me the truth (months into it) that she was going to usf 2 hours away. she knew before we even got together that she was but she said she didnt want to "take me off the high i was on" by how happy i was to have finally conquered the "woman of my dreams" as i thought. shes one of those girls qho cant admit she lied so she'll play the word game for an hour saying she "ommitted" or something you know?

Miss Malorie said...

Ahhhh, word games. I love when people try to play word games with me, because I'm quite adept at them. It's kind of funny, actually. Anyhow, I also cannot stand when people try to act all "nice guy/girl" and say that they intentionally let you go on believing something because it was for your better good... since when do people act in your better good without actually giving you the opportunity to know what's up? It's kind of patronizing, in my opinion...

Manda The Magnificent said...

exactly and after we had this fight she stopped talking to me completely. wont even see me and wont even answer a text. i text her everyday thinking maybe one day she will answer and she doesnt. we have had so much worse arguments i dont know why me telling her that yeah maybe i am delusion for thinking she was different than anyone else ended everything for good. it was the truth why cant she just own up to it instead of just straight ignoring me?

Miss Malorie said...

The truth can be hard to swallow... especially if someone has been pretending as though the truth wasn't the truth at all, if that makes sense.

Manda The Magnificent said...

yes. shes very full of pride and can never admit her wrong. she literally would only answer my text on christmas because she said the day "did something to her." then right after that day she was reading my facebook status' that were angrily aimed to her & she out of nowhere texted me saying "hey quick question why so angry on fb" and i told her that im sick of being ignored like im an idiot when i did nothing wrong but resppect her and to your surprise i got ignored. havent talked since. it seriously pisses me off beyond recognition.

Miss Malorie said...

That's pretty ridiculous. Obviously, she's not valuing what you have to say. So, in turn, you have to completely turn your attention to other things. If she wants to be an ass and pretend like you aren't trying to talk to her, let her be an ass by herself and get a taste of her own medicine. After a while, people who are used to being the subject of someone's attention get tired of not being paid attention to anymore, and nine times out of ten, they will come back and try to be all underneath you again once you leave them alone. Humans are an interesting lot, that's for sure.

Manda The Magnificent said...

i seriously more than anything regret answering her text asking why i was angry. i was in the middle of another text when hers inturupted and i just wanted to get rid of it. ever since we dont talk and i feel such an idiot for giving her what she wanted. i think about it everyday and it eats at me. i feel like that was my chance to make her think. whether it would bother her or not. i cant forget about it.

Miss Malorie said...

Sorry for the long hiatus... my life has been all over the place as of late. But I understand what you're saying. There's nothing I can't stand more than when you give someone the explanation they asked for, but then when you ask the same of them, they play mum and plead the fifth. Not cool at all.

Manda The Magnificent said...

im so over it lol seriously. im a recovering addict working so hard on me the problems on her now. shes only hearing her own echo now.

Miss Malorie said...

And I think that's the best thing. You are your most important commodity... you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anyone else.

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